Many break promises and now days if you remind the person you become the villain. But in God’s eyes who is right and who is wrong? The bible tells us it is better to not make a vow. It is more serious then people realize breaking a promise, especially if you had no real intentions of keeping it.
(Ecclesiastes 5:5) 5 Better is it that you vow not than that you vow and do not pay. . .
If we have broken a promise and have not tried to make it right then that has made us a liar because we stated something and made a vow and did not fulfill it. We know God does not approve of false statements.
(Proverbs 12:22) 22 False lips are something detestable to Jehovah, but those acting in faithfulness are a pleasure to him. . .
We may make a promise because we don’t want to look mean or uncaring but if we cannot fulfill that promise then we are not being honest with ourselves or the other person.
(Proverbs 25:14) 14 As vaporous clouds and a wind without any downpour is a man boasting himself about a gift in falsehood. . .
The lie originated with Satan, we do not want to choose him as a father we know that will not end well.
(John 8:44) 44 YOU are from YOUR father the Devil, and YOU wish to do the desires of YOUR father. That one was a manslayer when he began, and he did not stand fast in the truth, because truth is not in him. When he speaks the lie, he speaks according to his own disposition, because he is a liar and the father of [the lie].
In Romans they mentioned those God’s wrath would be against. Those who are false to agreements are among those who will experience God’s wrath.
(Romans 1:28-31) 28 And just as they did not approve of holding God in accurate knowledge, God gave them up to a disapproved mental state, to do the things not fitting, 29 filled as they were with all unrighteousness, wickedness, covetousness, badness, being full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malicious disposition, being whisperers, 30 backbiters, haters of God, insolent, haughty, self-assuming, inventors of injurious things, disobedient to parents, 31 without understanding, false to agreements, having no natural affection, merciless.
The bible tells us no matter what if we make a promise we are to do our best to fulfill that promise.
(Proverbs 6:1-5) 6 My son, if you have gone surety for your fellowman, [if] you have given your handshake even to the stranger, 2 [if] you have been ensnared by the sayings of your mouth, [if] you have been caught by the sayings of your mouth, 3 take this action then, my son, and deliver yourself, for you have come into the palm of your fellowman: Go humble yourself and storm your fellowman with importunities. 4 Do not give any sleep to your eyes, nor any slumber to your beaming eyes. 5 Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hand and like a bird from the hand of the birdcatcher.
Even if the promise is not favorable to us we are to keep it.
(Psalm 15:4) 4 In his eyes anyone contemptible is certainly rejected, But those fearing Jehovah he honors. He has sworn to what is bad [for himself], and yet he does not alter. . .
We are in times of uncertainty. To avoid making a statement that may end up proving false if we cannot fulfill it, it may be better to not make a promise or agreement.
(Matthew 5:34-37) 34 However, I say to YOU: Do not swear at all, neither by heaven, because it is God’s throne; 35 nor by earth, because it is the footstool of his feet; nor by Jerusalem, because it is the city of the great King. 36 Nor by your head must you swear, because you cannot turn one hair white or black. 37 Just let YOUR word Yes mean Yes, YOUR No, No; for what is in excess of these is from the wicked one. . .
When it comes to promises we could put ourselves under judgement if we do not fulfill it.
(James 5:12) 12 Above all things, though, my brothers, stop swearing, yes, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath. But let YOUR Yes mean Yes, and YOUR No, No, so that YOU do not fall under judgment. . .
If we have wronged someone by breaking a promise or we have been wronged and we confronted the person and they apologize then just as we have been forgiven by our heavenly father we should forgive others. They also should forgive us but we need to make sure we do not put ourselves in a position to be judged again.
(Colossians 3:13, 14) 13 Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Even as Jehovah freely forgave YOU, so do YOU also. 14 But, besides all these things, [clothe yourselves with] love, for it is a perfect bond of union.
(Matthew 6:14, 15) 14 “For if YOU forgive men their trespasses, YOUR heavenly Father will also forgive YOU; 15 whereas if YOU do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will YOUR Father forgive YOUR trespasses. . .