Written by Lee Stevenson, sorry I am not the best editor.
We are living in the last days. I believe it can works as a protection to know when someone may be guilty, but we should not over think the things that can indicate guilt, if there are many of the things I mention occurring at once it may be wise to start paying a little more attention to things.
There are ways to tell if someone may be guilty of something, things you can watch for. Now these are not absolute because there are those who grew up being falsely accused of things so will feel guilt for any little thing they feel they failed at or even believe they have guilt they do not. I am going to discuss the ones who will have guilt and who hide it. These ones usually act over confident and will point out what they view as others short comings to keep the attention away from them. I will discuss common tactics used by those who have guilt they are hiding. But this should not be taken as advice for using it to convict someone. It can be useful in determining if this person is hard on themselves which can cause a negative reaction or over reaction to many things or if they truly have guilt. This would take knowing the person’s previous behavior compared to their present behavior. When I was a child my did bought me psychology books. This does not qualify me to make an evaluation I am writing this because I feel these things could be useful considering the times we are in. I use the term victims because when a person is guilty of a wrong doing there are multiple victims involved because when the main victim suffers from a person’s wrong doing it often time effects their friends and family. I have found many of these things to be true especially if many of these things occur frequently. If they occur here and there and not frequently I would be hesitant to believe the person had guilt. But if it is a pattern that keep occurring a person may need to pay attention. If we find ourselves doing these things we need to keep in mind that with guilt there are victims and it hurts purple. If we have made an error , it is best to admit it hope your are forgiven so that you and others can move on. Hiding guilt draws out the person who is guilty misery and the victims misery. It also ends in many people no longer wanting to associate with a person who has hid their guilt, because of the extreme measures it takes to hide guilt. Granted admitting guilt takes time to regain peoples trust but it is better then losing them entirely.
When they are first guilty they will love bomb the victim or victims. They will overcompensate by being overly nice and helpful. Some are naturally overly nice and helpful but when things are out of character for someone is when we need to pay attention.
People who have guilt will try to justify their actions in detail and try to discuss why that may have taken actions that seemed suspicious. They will target a persons vulnerabilities and use their insecurities to keep the victims distracted so they will not see clearly and be able to think clearly about matters.
If a person has guilt it can cause them to get over emotional. The brain gets stuck in fight or flight mode. If they are questioned about their suspicious actions often times the guilt will present as anger and direct that anger towards the victims. If this does not work they often times will go into sympathy mode and try to get the victim or victims to feel sorry for them. Emotions are very strong and they will try to use emotions to keep people from reasoning.
Guilt often time causes sleep disruptions.
A tactic often used by guilty people to try and make a person like like they are lying is asking the same question only different ways. No one has a perfect memory we always deviate a little from how we remember thing. Any deviation to how we first told something is used as evidence the victim is lying even though they are telling the truth. Lawyers are aware of this fact and will use the fact our memories are not perfect in court to make it appear a person is being deceptive. This is why it is very important to state you do not remember exactly or if you don’t remember then say you do not. In court you have to answer the questions, sometimes we may make errors in how we recall and remember later. If we try to correct this guilty people and lawyers will try and use that to prove you are being deceptive.
Often times the guilty will go out of their way to avoid the victim and make excuses for avoiding the victim. They may even try to paint the victims in a negative light to hide the true motive for their avoidance. They will spend less time around the people or things that could trigger the guilt. Thy will get preoccupied by things to use as a cover for the avoidance and exaggerate their importance. They may even create scenarios that will keep them too busy to have to face the victims so they do not have to face their guilt.
When the guilt progresses they will start accusing others of the things they are guilty of. They may also start to justify their actions. Like the avoidance, or the angry outburst. They also may start exaggerating their victims guilt.
When it seems they are going to get caught they may start shaming the victim and pointing out their flaws and short comings. This justifies their actions in their mind. If the victim or victims are getting close to the truth they will also use this method to prepare them so they can use this for an excuse to justify their actions. They will nit pick at the victim or victims pointing out any flaws and even convincing them they have flaws they may not have. This is also to induce an emotional response which can prevent a person from being able to reason things through or get them to false reason on things.
Gas lighting is also used to try and alter the victims perception of reality. They will accuse the victims of being overly sensitive or overly reactive. They may even use this as evidence to try and say this is proof the victim is guilty of something. When they are gas lighting they will do little things here and there to draw the victims imperfections out and get them to react to them. Then once the victims do react they use this to guilt them.
If they are sure they are going to get exposed they will start playing the victim so that when the lie is exposed those around them will not believe the victims. Usually by the time guilt is exposed the guilty party has already put things in place and has convinced people to lie for them and to validate things for them to cover over their guilt. This prevents their guilt from being exposed to others because no one would believe the victims. Often times they will start arguments in front of people or fights and do it in a way that it will make the victim look like they started it. This is to produce evidence to discredit the victims by making them look irrational and making them look unreasonable.
We all have our short comings. If someone is using guilt , embarrassment , or the many other ways they have to justify what they do, it does not make the victim at fault. Many of us may come close to being guilty of things but when someone crosses the line, just because we may have almost made a similar error this does not make the victims guilty. We recognize those lines and do not cross them. If they cross the line the guilt is their own and any excuses they have are not justifiable.
If the guilty readily admits their guilt they could save themselves and the victims a lot of trouble. If you study the bible it is required we forgive them if they truly repent. Keep in mind how good it feels when you make an error and you are forgiven. We all make errors admitting the guilt prevents suffering for the guilty and the victims because once someone is forgiven and no longer commits the offense again, everyone can move on and put it behind them. It is unreasonable to think anyone will be innocent at all times. But it is how we respond when we are in error that is the important part. Most of the trouble with society now days is when someone does repent many refuse to forgive them. They will beat someone with their error over and over again. If we are a victim and someone has repented, we need to keep in mind how good it feels when we are forgiven and how much weight is lifted off when we can put things behind us and move on. If a person is unforgiving it may be best not to remain in contact with them if possible then can cause a lot of stress and tension. The bible tells us we will be forgiven as we forgive others. So even if the guilty person does not repent we should not hold a grudge it will only take from us mentally and even effect our health.