Is resentment a little thing?

If you don't read it how can you have faith.

Written by Lee Stevenson, sorry I am not the best editor.

Resentment is a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury. It can be brought on by jealousy or if you feel you have been wronged. If a person holds onto it too long it can turn to bitterness and anger. Resentment can be directed at an action, statement or person. If we are mistreated or wronged or we see others mistreated or wronged we can feel resentment and it can actually start presenting in other areas of our life or towards others. If you hold onto resentment you will rehash things over and over and it can prevent you from thinking clearly and from moving forward. When it is someone you care about it becomes the most difficult to let go, especially if we know they know better. When I say that they have had the things they have done occur to them and know the emotional injury they can cause. If they know their bibles will it can be even more difficult to let things go. I will discuss guidance the bible gives on dealing with resentment. If we hold onto resentment it could lead to works of the flesh such as jealousy, anger, strife, and cause divisions. If we give into the flesh this can result in it not only destroying our life now but could cost us the hope in the future promise of living forever. This is why we are told to pursue peace with all people. Women are much more sensitive to negative emotions so even if any negative emotion we feel is not towards them we need to learn to let things go because they perceive these things easier then men will and be effected negatively. In a sense when we feel resentment we may be starting to judge matters. We are told we are not to judge and it is God who will repay each for the things they do whether good or bad. Resentment my seem like a little thing but many time we seen people get drawn in by little things because they got overconfident about their standing with good and their faith and loyalty and it caused them to commit serious sins that hurt themselves and others and usually destroyed their lives.

If we are married sometimes a person’s spouse may do things that cause resentment. We have to keep in mind we are imperfect and may do things that cause them resentment. Sometimes resentment may come from an unresolved argument. Usually arguments can be resolved using God’s world but if the argument is with someone who does not consult God’s word and write it into their heart the argument most likely will never be resolved. If we dwell on it , it can start causing resentment which can lead to far worse sins. In a relationship , even in some friendships a person will feel resentment because the family member or friend is not listening to you or giving you attention. This may be true and the bible does have good advice on how both sides should handle that but it would be too extensive to cover now. If the feelings are warranted then we should talk to the person about it in a kind and peaceable way. If the resentment is thought about for too long it can start causing feelings of regret and a person will start to withdraw from the person causing the resentment. This is usually not intentional, but it can cause many problems. If we do feel anger or resentment we should learn to leave it go before we go to bed because we are warned it will leave an opportunity for Satan.

Some may feel resentment if they are being criticized. I used to get upset if someone pointed out a short coming, but I now realize if the person did not care about me they would not point those things out so I can continue to grow and become a better person. There is a difference between constructive and destructive criticism. Destructive criticism tears a person down. Constructive criticism builds others up which the bible tells us to do. Learn to recognize constructive and destructive criticism. If a person is doing destructive criticism which the bible warns is wrong and they do not correct their behavior it tells you something about them not you.

One of the first things we need to do is to forgive people. But we may ask what if they do not repent? Well then the bible warns we should be cautious about associating with them but we still need to forgive them. When they do repent and make the necessary changes then we need to forgive them. We cannot be forgiven if we do not forgive others. It also hinders us from moving forward spiritually and could effect other relationships including family and friends negatively. If they do not repent then they may have a hardened heart and the bible warns us about associating with those who have a hardened heart towards God’s word. Sometimes we have a hard time forgiving ourselves for letting whatever happened occur, or for not seeing the signs that the offense or situation was going to occur and we did not take steps to protect ourselves. We need to forgive ourselves. Learn from it, let it teach us so we will be more aware what to do and try our best to apply God’s word to protect us from the offense.

If it is something we seen happen in the world or to someone else, we need to pray to God and put it on him and if possible help the person. If not we have to remember God loves us all and he is righteous and will have Jesus set matters straight soon.

Self resentment comes from not forgiving ourselves, or committing the offense or action repeatedly. Some may have learned to resent themselves from abuse when they were young. If this occurs we need to see how God sees us. He values every single one of us. We may even over exaggerate things about ourselves in our own minds. We need to be careful about that. We would not want to be over confident to the point it would cause a fall but we should not keep dwelling on how imperfect we are. If we do it could hinder us being able to share bible truths with others and steal our confidence from us. God is well aware of our imperfections. If he only looked at our sin then no one would make it. God looks at our willingness to give up sin and to keep growing spiritually. King David committed some pretty serious sins and when he repented God forgave him. David continued to grow spiritually and did not commit those sins again. When others do commit a sin and the reason I keep saying sin it is usually sin that causes resentment though it also could be a bad situation we could not avoid. We need to forgive them even if they are our enemy. We need to learn to try our best not to put ourselves in a position to have something cause us resentment.

There are world events that are occurring and are going to occur very very soon. We may feel resentment for many reason because man is gong to bring a lot of harm on each other very soon. Man already has and still is but it is going to get much worse very soon. We have to stay strong and realize all these things now occurring were prophesied. Jesus warned that these things would happen on a grand scale like they have never occurred before. I will give you an example of resentment I felt. Earthquakes were prophesied and they said they would happen on a grand scale. It used to be that when an earthquake occurred it was a major news event. Now earthquakes happen so frequently that they rarely even report them on the news and if they do they just briefly mention them. I noticed that most of the areas it happened in were poor areas. When I looked deeper into it often times the area the poor were forced to live people live in , they lived there because they had no where else to go because of the oppression. I used to dwell for days on how the nation they lived in, knew those people had been forced to live in an area that was known for being a dangerous area during earthquakes. That clearly is not a problem for me to worry about but one for God because it is a condition of the world and the state it is in. Things are happening on such a grand scale now only Jesus can straighten the mess out man made, when God gives him the command to. We cannot let resentment rob our peace of mind. Jesus is our king and God is going to have him set things straight very very soon but we need to stay focused spiritually and not get easily shaken because the peace Jesus told us we would enjoy, would not be the peace as man sees it but it would be a mental and spiritual peace we will enjoy. We need to expect things to occur especially since we all are sinful and fall short. Others also have to tolerate our imperfections and our error. Something I personally have to work on is when I help others I will let them cross lines I should not and then I feel resentment towards them and towards me for letting them cross those lines. So I need to make the lines clearer and to not let people cross them and if they do, I need to limit my contact with them. We cannot let thoughts set in that can cause us to eventually start resenting things. We know these things are going to occur. We are limited on what we can do. Man brought this on ourselves by rejecting God. We are seeing the end results of it. Jesus is our king and will set matters straight very soon.

Some of us may have been put in positions were we have limited resources and may be struggling. Some even now are being imprisoned, we have to remember in times past those who worshiped in truth were taken into captivity, or imprisoned would find ways to bring God glory and they stay focused on pleasing him. Daniel and his three friends while in captivity actually gain authority and respect because of their faith and obedience to God. He blessed obedient and faithful ones many times over when they endured. We are in the last days and the blessing may seem far off. We do not know when the new system will be here but we can see some of the final prophecies being fulfilled now, so we can be confident it is very very near this is why Jesus frequently reminds us to stay alert. We know it is going to happen suddenly just as it did in Noah’s day and many who believe in God and Jesus will pay no note until it is too late. So just because we have faith and try to obey God if we are not listening to God and taking no note of the scriptures being fulfilled , by the time we realize the times we are in and try to prepare it will be too late. Now more then ever we need to focus on spiritual things and do our best to prevent resentment coming into our hearts it could distract us and even lead us away if we let it overwhelm us. It is ok to feel remorse or sadness for a while but we cannot dwell on it too long or it may lead to resentment and resentment can lead to anger. Once this occurs we not only get angry at what has occurred or the person but it could effect the way we act towards others in our lives. We know the work we have to do and that is to make disciples of people of all the earth and to spread the good news of the heavenly kingdom and to do our best to let God’s word guide us in all we do. Resentment may seem like a small thing but may have fallen but just small things. David looked at a woman bathing when he should have turned his eyes away and it caused him to betray many people and he betrayed God’s trust. It could have cost him his life if he had not repented but God give him the chance to repent and he did not commit that error again. It was just a little thing David was on his rough when he seen her bathing. If he would have done something to remove himself from seeing the woman it may have prevented him from committing a very serious sin. Resentment if we do not let it go can lead to very serious sins that can lead to jealousy , anger and eventually violence if we do not learn to let it go and to forgive others and trust God will set things straight some day.

In times past God would remind his people when they got distracted, or discouraged to focus their attention on the things above. He would remind them of his laws and remind them to write it on their hearts. This gave them hope, build their faith and trust in God and his word. This prevented them from getting distracted or relying on their own understanding. If we do not focus on the things above then the little things could draw us away just as one little thing caused David to fall short. We are told not to be conquered by the evil but to conquer the evil with the good. So when we face evil things we need to work very hard not to let our human imperfections get the best of us. This world and all the things in it will be gone soon. Even though at times it may seem like forgot about us , he does care and he knows what we are enduring. I would have to cover that in another post. Most of all do not let resentment fester until it progresses farther. It may drive us to take actions God would not approve of. It is God who will repay each for the things people have done whether good or bad. If we get overcome and give in to what may seem like a little thing it can lead us down to a path of more serious sins against God. We are all imperfect and when we do error , we should do our best to take corrective action. Learn how to avoid putting ourselves in a position to commit that sin again. We should not continue to resent ourselves when we do find error in ourselves. Remember resentment can cause anger and ill will . We could end up thinking bad thoughts about ourselves instead of thinking positively on what we could do to go forward. We should focus on what we could do to develop the mind of Christ who was the perfect image of his father Jehovah.

Some of us may feel resentment because we see someone we care for constantly putting themselves in situations you know are not good and could make them fall short but there are no laws or scriptures to cover that area. For example if someone has a tendency to flirt with others but they do not cross the line or pursue things. This could cause them to be accused of things they may not be doing. This could reflect badly on them and give them a reputation. This could lead to them getting into a bad situation that could result in them falling short by fornicating or committing adultry, or being hurt. Things like that can be a matter of conscience but when they can lead to us being harmed or falling into sin then it is not responsible and God will not protect us. Where the bible does cover this is, we are able to be free of accusations so we should not put ourselves in situations that may smear us just by the way our actions appear. For example I had a friend who was hanging out with people who drank heavily. He was being accused of it at the time but he was not drinking but he had already been labeled as a drunk. But they did eventually draw him into drinking and he started drinking heavily. But even if he had not he was smearing God’s name , and it also took his freeness of speech about God’s word and you could see it in the way he would speak about it. If we are a brother and we frequently meet in private with a woman. We may not be doing anything inappropriate but it could give cause for accusations which could smear God’s name. Even worse it could eventually lead us to sin causing us to lose God’s protection. We are going to suffer no matter what but whether we make it through it or not will be determined if God is with us. So little things like resentment, anger , jealousy and many other things matter, and we need to pay attention to them. Those little things can eventually drown out love and the bible tells us that love protects our thinking. The bible tells us love never fails. Those who do not know love may let us down but we need to let love guide us so we do not fail in our struggles. I am not saying we should be over paranoid of our actions but we need to be aware of situations that could put our reputation at stake and even our standing with God. This shows you how important something as little as resentment could be. Resentment can lead to a variety of sins.

So you can see little things like jealousy, fits of anger, strife, contentiousness, mocking others, putting ourselves in situations because of overconfidence could lead to someone fornicating or committing adultery. Once this occurs God will leave the sin run it’s course and the damage it causes. Often times the damage it causes harms others and it takes years for everyone to recover. Even after someone repents it may take years for them to fully gain peoples trust. God can read our hearts when we fall short so knows if we truly are going to repent. I have seen people ignore the little things and it eventually led them away from God and the friends they acquired in the world seemed to be nice but would frequently cause them problems and anxieties. Their life would continually decline and so would the class of friends they acquired. It is sad to watch , and it shows the importance of paying attention to the little things. But we should not obsess over them , it is best to focus on the short comings we have that most effect ourselves and others negatively.

(Colossians 3:5-11) 5 Deaden, therefore, your body members that are on the earth as respects sexual immorality, uncleanness, uncontrolled sexual passion, hurtful desire, and greediness, which is idolatry. 6 On account of those things the wrath of God is coming. 7 That is how you too used to conduct yourselves in your former way of life. 8 But now you must put them all away from you: wrath, anger, badness, abusive speech, and obscene talk out of your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another. Strip off the old personality with its practices, 10 and clothe yourselves with the new personality, which through accurate knowledge is being made new according to the image of the One who created it, 1. . .

(1 Thessalonians 5:10, 11) . . .. 11 Therefore, keep encouraging one another and building one another up, just as you are in fact doing.

(Ephesians 4:26, 27) 26 Be wrathful, but do not sin; do not let the sun set while you are still angry; 27 do not give the Devil an opportunity.

(Galatians 5:19-21) 19 Now the works of the flesh are plainly seen, and they are sexual immorality, uncleanness, brazen conduct, 20 idolatry, spiritism, hostility, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, dissensions, divisions, sects, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and things like these. I am forewarning you about these things, the same way I already warned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit God’s Kingdom.

(Colossians 3:1, 2) 3 If, however, you were raised up with the Christ, go on seeking the things above, where the Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 2 Keep your minds fixed on the things above, not on the things on the earth.

(1 John 2:15-17) 15 Do not love either the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him; 16 because everything in the world—the desire of the flesh and the desire of the eyes and the showy display of one’s means of life—does not originate with the Father, but originates with the world. 17 Furthermore, the world is passing away and so is its desire, but the one who does the will of God remains forever.

(Hebrews 10:32-39) 32 However, keep remembering the former days in which, after you were enlightened, you endured a great struggle along with sufferings. 33 At times you were publicly exposed both to reproaches and to tribulations, and at times you shared with those who were having such an experience. 34 For you expressed sympathy for those in prison and you accepted joyfully the plundering of your belongings, knowing that you yourselves have a better and an enduring possession. 35 Therefore, do not throw away your boldness, which will be richly rewarded. 36 For you need endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the fulfillment of the promise. 37 For yet “a very little while,” and “the one who is coming will arrive and will not delay.” 38 “But my righteous one will live by reason of faith,” and “if he shrinks back, I have no pleasure in him.” 39 Now we are not the sort who shrink back to destruction, but the sort who have faith for the preserving of our lives.

(Romans 12:17-21) 17 Return evil for evil to no one. Take into consideration what is fine from the viewpoint of all men. 18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men. 19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but yield place to the wrath; for it is written: “‘Vengeance is mine; I will repay,’ says Jehovah.” 20 But “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by doing this you will heap fiery coals on his head.” 21 Do not let yourself be conquered by the evil, but keep conquering the evil with the good.

(Luke 12:4-7) . . .. 5 But I will show you whom to fear: Fear the One who after killing has authority to throw into Ge·henʹna. Yes, I tell you, fear this One. 6 Five sparrows sell for two coins of small value, do they not? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. 7 But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Have no fear; you are worth more than many sparrows.

(2 Timothy 4:14, 15) 14 Alexander the coppersmith did me a great deal of harm. Jehovah will repay him according to his deeds. 15 You too should be on guard against him, for he opposed our message to an excessive degree.

(Psalm 62:12) 12 Also loyal love is yours, O Jehovah, For you repay each one according to his deeds. . .

(Mark 11:25) 25 And when you stand praying, forgive whatever you have against anyone, so that your Father who is in the heavens may also forgive you your trespasses.. . .

(James 2:11-13) . . .. 12 Keep on speaking and behaving in such a way as those do who are going to be judged by the law of a free people. 13 For the one who does not practice mercy will have his judgment without mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.

(Hebrews 12:12-14) 12 Therefore, strengthen the hands that hang down and the feeble knees, 13 and keep making straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but, rather, may be healed. 14 Pursue peace with all people and the sanctification without which no man will see the Lord.

(Ephesians 5:1-5) 5 Therefore, become imitators of God, as beloved children, 2 and go on walking in love, just as the Christ also loved us and gave himself for us as an offering and a sacrifice, a sweet fragrance to God. 3 Let sexual immorality and every sort of uncleanness or greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as is proper for holy people; 4 neither shameful conduct nor foolish talking nor obscene jesting—things that are not befitting—but rather the giving of thanks. 5 For you know this, recognizing it for yourselves, that no sexually immoral person or unclean person or greedy person, which means being an idolater, has any inheritance in the Kingdom of the Christ and of God.

(1 Peter 2:21-24) 21 In fact, to this course you were called, because even Christ suffered for you, leaving a model for you to follow his steps closely. 22 He committed no sin, nor was deception found in his mouth. 23 When he was being insulted, he did not insult in return. When he was suffering, he did not threaten, but he entrusted himself to the One who judges righteously. 24 He himself bore our sins in his own body on the stake, so that we might die to sins and live to righteousness. And “by his wounds you were healed.”

(Matthew 6:14, 15) 14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; 15 whereas if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

(Hebrews 3:12-14) 12 Beware, brothers, for fear there should ever develop in any one of you a wicked heart lacking faith by drawing away from the living God; 13 but keep on encouraging one another each day, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you should become hardened by the deceptive power of sin. 14 For we actually become partakers of the Christ only if we hold firmly down to the end the confidence we had at the beginning.

(Romans 12:1, 2) 12 Therefore, I appeal to you by the compassions of God, brothers, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, a sacred service with your power of reason. 2 And stop being molded by this system of things, but be transformed by making your mind over, so that you may prove to yourselves the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

(Colossians 1:21-23) 21 Indeed, you who were once alienated and enemies because your minds were on the works that were wicked, 22 he has now reconciled by means of that one’s fleshly body through his death, in order to present you holy and unblemished and open to no accusation before him— 23 provided, of course, that you continue in the faith, established on the foundation and steadfast, not being shifted away from the hope of that good news that you heard and that was preached in all creation under heaven. Of this good news I, Paul, became a minister.

(1 John 4:17-19) . . .. 18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts fear out, because fear restrains us. Indeed, the one who is fearful has not been made perfect in love. 19 We love, because he first loved us.

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8) 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away with; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away with.


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