People can deliberately suppress memories of guilt from deception, lying or doing something immoral. But it comes at a price it effects and even starts damaging the brain causing personality alterations, changes in behavior and it negatively impacts their health.
These is not to be taken ans something to diagnose someone with or treat them or oneself. Therapist are best for healing mentally. I am writing this so people can be aware when they start seeing changes in others behavior, but you should not assume because they show some of the symptoms they are being deceptive, lying are being immoral. Some illnesses and toxins can cause some of these symptoms. This usually occurs suddenly and more and more of the symptoms occur with the longer the suppress the guilt or memories of guilt.
Ever notice those people who are prejudice , or who may steal or may commit immoral sexual acts. They cannot recall the things they have done. It is called ethical amnesia. They develop cognitive dissonance because they do not want to admit that they were capable of such things and they conflict with their own self image of who they believe they are morally. They intentionally suppress their memories of guilt. These ones will be ale to recall all the days events but not the time that the immoral act took place. They have memory gaps and cannot tell you all that occurred. For example if a wife spent time with another man. And she committed infidelity. She would remember all the things she did that day but would have memory lapses of the times the event took place that caused the guilt.
These ones subconsciously try to cleanse or remove their guilt by being more prosocial. They will start doing many acts of charity and kindness. They are trying to restore the image they perceived of themselves. They will start speaking out for victims such as children who have been sexually abused or wives who have been abused. They stop talking about their lives in fear it will bring back the memories of guilt or that something they say will expose their guilt and they will have to face it. Even though they have suppressed the memories of guilt they will have Freudian slips of things that can revel they are suppressing guilt surrounding something.
But you may say we all do that. The difference is those ones continually put themselves in positions to fail morally. They also continue to have more and more memory lapses it takes a lot of mental energy to suppress guilt. They will often times start being paranoid and start thinking everyone is out to get them and start pushing people away except those involved with approving of their immoral behavior. They will surround themselves who approve of immoral behavior to make themselves feel they are no different them anyone else and may even be better morally.
If someone does something that reminds them of their guilt they will get angry at them attack them , hate them and resent them. Studies have shown this damages the mind and they continue to lead double lives but the morally decline more and more. They start believing rules and morals do not apply to them. They make up stories that others are the cause of their unhappiness and the convince themselves of it. It becomes easier and easier for them to lie and believe their own lies. This cause even more moral decline. Sadly the quality of their friends continues to decrease as their morals decrease. They stat comparing their morality to others and start looking for flaws in others to make themselves feel like their actions were not immoral and that they are more moral then others. The decline in their morals is a result of them losing their ability to learn from past errors causing them to make even more immoral decisions.
Lying takes a toll on their health because in suppressing the lies they are still aware of the consequences subconsciously so it keep their limbic system upregulated and their HPA upregalted which has dramatic negative effects on their health. In time their minds can adjust to lying and the limbic system and HPA will normalize but the negative effect of them supressing their memory causes them to not only become more deceptive to themselves and others but they lose the ability to detect when someone is is being deceptive or lying. The person’s lies eventually come out even it they suppressed the memory . To try and cover for that lie they have to tell more lies until eventually most will lose trust in them because it become clear they are an untruthful and non remorseful person. People will start avoiding them and distancing themselves from them.
When people have done something that makes them feel shame and guilt. They sometimes will go into a state of denial and avoidance. They avoid, deflect, create fantasies and experience frequent episodes of anger, they will refuse to look at fact and this habit can carry over to other areas of their life not just with the act them committed to make them feel guilt, they also experience psychological projection. This is to try and hide the pain, and trauma from realizing what the long term effects of their actions would be if their immoral act is found out.
Psychological projection is a result of the person trying to disown a part of themselves they do not like, it is a form of self denial. They will blame shift, start shame dumping trying to humiliate the victim, they will over idealize things such as animals or even people. They will refuse to look at the fact. Narcissist and those with Border Line personality disorder are the most prone to doing this.
They project their guilt on others accusing them of what they are actually guilty of. They feel vulnerable because of what they have done so they start bullying the victim. This usually comes from them being insecure or fearing what they may lose because of their actions. This makes them develop disassociative personality disorder, if they do not admit their guilt or continue to add to their guilt. Meaning they may develop two personalities. They can experience amnesia of the events of the immoral acts they had done, they will have gaps in memory, lose their sense of identity to will seek out people with qualities they like and try to imitate them to establish their identity. They have a reduced emotional response, so cannot connect emotionally with others. They compartmentalize their thoughts. They separate their thoughts from their feelings and also thoughts that are not compatible with what they think such as thoughts of guilt. They lose the concept of who they are and their ability of self assessment. Self assessment is how we identify what we like and what we do not like, what we feel is right and what we feel is wrong. They become people pleasers in and attempt to reestablish their identity. They could even experience a change in the sex they identify with. This is in an effort to try and hide the guilt and shame. It is also an attempt to hide the guilt because they fear what the long term outcome will be if they get caught. This is also a sign of being neurotic.
Manipulation and responsibility avoidance. They will create false stories to try and make the victim believe what they saw is not what had occurred. They well act surprised or offended and even angry that it was suggested they had done it. They are hoping the person has insecurities or self doubt. If they do then it can provoke guilt and shame in them, this causes the victim to false reason and start believing they were wrong even though they were right in their assessment. If lying and excuses do not work they will start diverting the blame and making excuses this is involved in impression management.
Impression management the more they do this, the more difficult it gets. They have to remember all the excuses, lies and deception they have done. This causes them to start forgetting things and become easily confused. So if something is sprung upon them quickly they have a difficult time separating the guilt, and suppression of the memories of guilt in their brain making them more prone to slipping up.
They use impression management to persuade people to think a certain way. This is where the increase in their sexual activities come in. Because of their suppression of the guilt memories and has increased other areas of the brain causing them to start seeking out multiple sex partners, because they cannot get joy from little things anymore they start getting thrills from the ability to manipulate and deceive people. This causes them to mostly feel anger and envy especially towards their victim or anyone who could remind them of their guilt even the person they may have committed the immoral act with. They are cool and calm if they believe they are deceiving someone but if they cannot deceive that person then they get very angry towards that person and may even hate them. They lose the ability to feel remorse or shame so their morality declines and so does their empathy and compassion. At this point they try to give people gifts, fake showing them positive emotions, and even act like they are concerned for them. If these things do not get the person to do their will then they will experience their full furry. They will have many people they do this with. They will do everything they can to gain power over them even using sex to draw them in. These ones are the ones who will excessively complement someone. They are trying to convince those around them that they are the greatest. They get very good at hiding who they really are but in private around their families . They can be very mentally and physically abusive. They become very sensitive if someone points out a short coming and will severely attack them and even get violent with them. Anyone they feel can expose their guilt they will smear their reputation and push them out of their life. They go to extremes to try to make it look like they have integrity, and will self promote their integrity.
If all else fails they will try to use anger and intimidation. They will threaten people. Try to put them in a vulnerable postions. They develop many defensive and assertive strategies that usually are subtle and not obvious. They will do things like shaming and belittling someone and pretend like it is a joke to down play what they are really doing. If it comes to solving a problem together they will try to make the other person look as if they are unreasonable or not cooperative. In actuality they are they want the person they are disagreeing with to surrender to their terms. They do this in an effort to make the victim admit everything was their fault and they will not acknowledge their own guilt. They will do things to try to make you feel inferior such as pointing out your short comings and even fabricating them and using errors you made in the past as evidence. They may even us that as evidence that you have a mental illness. We all show since of mental illness at one time or another it is when these symptoms persist over a very long period of time it is a problem . Stress , trauma or illness can all cause us to have mental issues at times. But those who are mentally ill the symptoms last much longer and are more pronounced.
It is all about control so they try to shape your personality and how you think to be like theirs. If they do something that is offensive to you are disrespect you they will accuse you of being too sensitive. They will never apologize because they feel nor remorse or guilt. If you ever meet someone who does not apologize no matter what , it does not matter how nice they are be very careful. When they have been guilty of an immoral act they will try to get you to over think it. Do not do that it will cause you to become confused, which is what they want. If they see you are not thinking about it then they will try to do things to keep your thought focus and over thinking things. If you make them justify why they are reacting the way they do and why they feel the way they do, it usually shuts them down because they know they cannot, they sometime throw things at someone to try and convince them they do not deserve to have any guilt , usually it is pretty obvious. Best to walk away because when that fails they will resort to violence. All these things they are doing is because they are trying to maintain their self esteem.
Situational avoidance they will avoid people and place or activities that could remind them of their guilt.
Cognitive avoidance they deliberately turn their minds , thoughts and memories and avoid thinking about them to suppress their guilt. It is a conscious decision, so they are deliberately choosing to block the memories and lie to themselves. They will do things to try and distract themselves so they will not think about those thoughts. They will take an interest in things and try developing hobbies or get pets to distract themselves.
They will also use toxic positivety. They They will try to convince themselves things are better then they are. They feel insure because they realize the bad outcome and long term effects that their immorality can cause if they are found out. There are things they will refuse to discuss problems or concerns because it is not in compliance with the positive view they have. They blame others for the problems they created and refuse to hold themselves accountable. If they did then it would disprove the false image they have developed of themselves of being moral. They will believe others problems or struggles are their fault because they did not try hard enough or they somehow failed, or are flawed. They have difficulty expressing emotions when they are at this point. They cannot handle stress or unpleasant thoughts because it takes a lot of the brains resources to suppress the guilt and the memories of guilt. They will avoid things that can remind them of their guilt. They will refuse to acknowledge problems and struggle to cope with them especially if they are hit with a new unexpected problem. This can cause them to feel powerless and can make their guilt and shame return resulting in depression and anxiety.
They also will fantasize and day dream a lot as part of their toxic positivety. To avoid their guilt they will start playing out different scenarios in their head of problems and how they can gain control over them. They are not about solving problems but about controlling them. They may day dream on how they can protect their reputation as things are found out. How they could manipulate things so the victim looks like the villain.
Somatic avoidance they will avoid things that bring them joy. Lose the ability to feel remorse, guilt or shame. These are replaced with anger, sadness, resentment, frustration, depression extreme grief. They do this in an effort to exchange the feeling of guilt and shame. This is substitution avoidance.
Substitution avoidance is to avoid feelings of guilt or shame. They replace the feeling of remorse, guilt and shame with anger, resentment, hatred, sadness, depression, and grief. They also try to releive their guilt by increasing their immoral sexual activities which only farther increases their guilt but they have learn to suppress it so it gets easier and easier for them to cross the lines of immorality. They also find other distraction like painting the house. Getting pets, developing a hobby. Sometimes they turn to drugs, and alcohol or develop and addictive type compulsive behavior such as gambling.
When all else fails they will start blaming and accusing the victim and others for the negative effects their immorality had on their lives. They will accuse the victim, people they associate with. They do this and many other things like blame shifting to try and convince themselves their immoral act was not their fault or was justified. They will refuse to play and down play the severity of what they have done. They will start looking for shorting comings and flaws in others in order to make them feel better about themselves.
This is sad because their morals decline more and more. They surround themselves with people who have lower morals and compare themselves to them. As their morals decline they have to choose friends with even lower morals. Eventually they reach the scum at the bottom of the barrel. Usually by then they have experienced violence, have gotten sexually transmitted diseases and was in dangerous situations that almost cost their live many times if they survive that long.
Studies have shown if they confess their guilt , and face it their brain can heal and they can become trust worthy and honest again. Studies have shown that partial confession actually damages the brain more then fully confessing. Their ability to recognize moral boundaries can be restored and their ability to inhibit immoral behavior becomes restore. Also their ability to learn from past error is restored , and they learn to be more cautious when it comes to things pertaining to morality. When their actions show they have truly turned their life around many of their friends and families trust in time can be restored. That note was based on my experience and when I had tried to suppress my guilt.
Writte by Lee Stevenson, sorry I am a lousy editor.
Many governments, politicians, corporations especially the biotech, pharmaceutical and medical industries use narcissistic tactic to get the public to do their will and empower themselves. They use a variety of fear tactics, intimidation and outright brain washing tactics to get the public to do their will. Something I learned while researching narcissistic abusers the main tools they use are fear, isolation of the victim, destroying the victims credibility if they try to expose the truth in matters, and doing all they can to make people dependent on them and force them into letting them make the decisions for them.
For example the CDC and NIH have been caught lying about the flu, ebola and many other epidemics and they would exaggerate the severity of those illnesses and the number of deaths. They have been caught many times deceiving the public. Often times this was because people in positions of authority had money invested in the ones producing vaccines or drugs and would profit heavily from them. Even though vaccines have been shown to do more harm then good and most medications have been shown to work by the placebo effects they and the governments world wide continue to make false claims about their products and many governments refuse to look at independent research but will only look at corporate funded research which often times when independent research is done the results cannot be duplicated. Most corporate research is so shoddy it reads more like and advertisement for the company that is producing the product.
So let cover how they use gas lighting to deceive people. Gas lighting’s purpose is to get people to not trust their own reasoning or perception of reality. Or to convince people they lack the wisdom to make a decision on their own. Something to take note of narcissist repeat thing often that are untrue. Studies have shown if a person repeats something enough times people will start to believe it even if they know what is being said is not true.
These are the warning signs that gas lighting is occurring:
They tell blatant lies and will go to extremes to protect those lies.
They deny they ever said something or did something.
They will slowly introduce the lies so they can wear you down over time.
They will use people and things near and dear to you that may be a part of your identity to convince you that you are no adequate or to convince you that you are in the wrong frame of thought.
They will use positive reinforcement to confuse you. They will cut you down then use positive reinforcement to get you to do their will. For example the pharmaceutical companies will make it like a person is a bad parent. But if they cave to the pharmaceutical companies will, the medical institutions are trained to treat the victims of thier narcissism as heroes.
One way the government lie is they will repeatedly claim they care about lives and will quote things they have done to save lives. But this is where you look at there actions. Some of the wealthiest nations in the world citizens die of starvation, are homeless and live in severe poverty. In the mean time their governments are funding wars, space exploration, giving money to big corporations supposedly to improve their products for the people. Crime is rampant yet they want to defund law enforcement.
They use projecting to get the citizens to look they other way by blaming the police for being to violent. They find a way to blame the poverty on the citizens to make them feel guilty, the allied with the biotech industry who lies and says their GMOs are going to prevent starvation when they are actually contributing to a decline in our food supply. They have caused the extinction of many of our pollinators , species of plants, and animals from their GMOs and the toxins needed to spray on them. The toxins sprayed on these GMO crops make it into our food supply and causes chronic illness. This is why cancer and digestive disorders are rampant. Yet our governments continue to give grants to corporate farms especially if they are growing GMOs. Narcissist always have a hidden agenda and by gas lighting they keep you too confused to be able to see the truth of matters.
The pharmaceutical companies gas light. They will lie and say vaccines do not harm but studies have shown they harm 100% of the time and the damage usually starts out as food sensitivities or allergies and the person slowly over time becomes more sensitive or allergic to things as time progresses. They vaccinate babies to hide this fact. Then they will brush things off as being a coincidence, anecdotal or they will even blame the person genes. Anyone who questions things they will label as crazy or try to prove this person is not wise and can not be trusted. They will attack and assassinate the character and integrity of anyone exposing their lies. They will even use people around someone or people they have to depend on to help convince people of their lies. The pharmaceutical , biotech and even many governments have been caught paying people to troll people online and try to distract, cause confusion , attack the character or integrity , lie , pit people against each other who were exposing the truth. They have even paid medical professionals to attack people online and paid researchers to put together ghost studies. When a pharmaceutical or biotech research paper has been proven to be flawed they never get retracted yet they have harassed scientist and tried to destroy their reputation of scientist who had valid and well designed research papers. They put so much papers on that many publisher who published the papers retracted them because it did not fit false narratives of the medical, pharmaceutical or biotech industries. They do what is called stalking. They will have people watch those exposing their lies trying to find incriminating evidence to draw attention away from their own guilt. They will even paint the person exposing their lies in a negative light and try to make them look crazy.
Often times when the governments were experimenting on citizens, or doing experiments that caused harm they would label the people who figured it out as crazy or conspiracy theorist. Historically if you look at the records the biggest part of the time the conspiracy theorist were correct. But they were labeled and called paranoid or crazy. They would try to convince those exposing the truth that they were not thinking clearly and get them to doubt their own reasoning and sometimes their own identity. They would pressure the people into believing they could not trust their own thoughts. It turns out historically all those people labeled as crazy or paranoid were often times correct.
The pharmaceutical, medical industries and political organizations frequently lie and have been caught covering up for the harm a major corporation was doing. Researchers have been paid to do research that would paint the corporations in a positive light. Most of the research has been shown to be ghost written , or outright flawed yet it does not get retracted. Yet the medical industry , and government organizations will not look at the real research because much of their funding comes from those corporations so they will work to destroy anyone exposing the lies of their corporate sponsors. They have even resorted to using various government agencies to discredit or destroy peoples reputations and falsely accuse them. Even after the person is found to be innocent the government has had them arrested. Though the charges would get dropped the corporations would use that to smear the reputations of the victims. Any error a person has made whether they corrected it or not would be throw out there to get the person and people around them to doubt their reasoning or thinking abilities.
Even thought the government organization have been caught lying and hiding the harm their corporate sponsor have done they will deny it. The corporate sponsor especially the biotech and pharmaceutical industry has a huge criminal record. Yet they will deny their wrong doing and the government will work with them to hide their lies and wrong doing. They constantly repeat that they are telling the truth and those exposing the lies are lying. As I mentioned earlier if you state something repeatedly enough times even those who know something is a lie will eventually become convinced it is the truth. This is why the pharmaceutical industry and government organizations work together to keep repeating the lies. The also work together to label anyone who questions them as crazy, paranoid or mentally deficient. Even those who are aware of what is happening will often times side with the narcissistic abuser so that they do not get attacked. Doctors who have exposed corruption have had their lives and careers destroyed. Even though the evidence is there of their guilt they will continually deny it and attack those exposing it. This will get others to submit to their will and refuse to look at the evidence in fear they will be labeled or harassed. Sometimes those who side with the narcissistic abusers like the pharmaceutical or medical industry may be a part of the lies or deception and would be exposed if they did not participate in the narcissistic abuse.
These corporate , government or they allies who are involved in the narcissistic abuse will project their guilt onto the victims and continually repeat it until others believe it. They do not believe in or will not take responsibility for their actions but find ways to justify their actions so they believe they are not wrong. The will try to create confusion, chaos or cause the person to become so overwhelmed they will be too busy to think about or expose the deception or lies. For example when they got caught lying about the flu and how deadly and contagious it was they falsely made it appear they had to lie in order to get people to respond and protect themselves. But when you look deeper many who sounded the alarms had money invested in the ones producing the flu vaccines. It was obvious they had hidden motives for lying and manipulating people into a state of fear.
Narcissist always offer a solution and it is one that will benefit them but they make it appear as if they are looking out for someone else interest or doing it to protect others. In actuality they are offering false hope. For example medical error is the third leading cause of death in the world. Vaccine injuries and deaths are rampant. The NIH falsely claims 10% of the adverse reactions to vaccines are reported but studies have shown that it is closer to 1% of adverse vaccine reactions that get reported. Meaning that many deaths and injuries caused by vaccines do not get reported. Adverse reactions to drugs almost never get reported so hard to tell how many died from adverse reactions to drugs. So all in all when you think about it medical treatment is most likely the number one cause of death in the world.
Most products produced by the pharmaceutical industry have been recalled because of the harm they have done . When government organizations learned of the harm being done they would start working with the pharmaceutical industries to gas light and hide the harm being done.
Eventually citizen outcry would get so loud that they could no longer hide their lies. In order to divert the harm they do and are doing or divert attention from their harm being done, lies and deception they do what is called love bombing. They will make the victims feel like they are special, even promote them like they are heroes . The whole time they will blame the victims illness on an unknown cause, genetics or coincidence when the pharmaceutical or biotech industries were the ones who actually caused the illness. They will set up charities that will donate money to help the victim. The whole time they will get others around them to love bomb them to prevent them from asking questions or seeing the truth of matters. They will act like they are trying to find a cure for their illness even though they are the cause. They will act like they produce their products because they care and anyone who does not trust them has to be mean a villain or insane. Classic narcissistic abuse, make those exposing the lies a villain. They will make promise they know they cannot fill like they will work to cure the disease. Logic would even tell you that would be stupid. If they cured an illness they would not longer have a customer . Their goal is to create lifetime customers which their products are very good at doing. They all come with side effect especially vaccines. Because many of the ingredients in vaccines contain animal tissue and aborted fetal tissue they no longer have to list all the ingredients that on in vaccines on the vaccine insert. Many people refused vaccines when they seen the side effects were worse then the disease it supposedly protected them against and death could be a result of the vaccine they no longer have to list all the side effects on vaccine inserts.
Those who administer vaccines are not trained in administering them and most of them do not know the ingredients in the vaccines. They do not know how to identify vaccine injury to report it but are taught to gas light when a patient does complain that something is wrong after they have gotten a vaccination. Not only that but if a someone gets in the habit of reporting adverse vaccine reactions the medical community , government and pharmaceutical industry will victimize them and many have lost their jobs for doing what was right. Nacissistic abusers are all about retaining power and control. Most of the time their efforts are covert.
The whole world has become victims to this narcissistic abuse. Next I will discuss how to protect ones self from narcissistic abuse.
To protect yourself recognize the behavior. When they continually repeat something they are trying to gain control and trying to get a person to doubt themselves. Learn to draw lines quickly when you identify narcissistic behavior. If they use blanket statements or generalizations. For example blanket statements and generalizations by the pharmaceutical and medical industries are “correlation does not mean causation” or “that evidence is anecdotal” those are blanket statements designed to get a person to doubt themselves or what they believe. When you know something is true hold on to it and draw the boundaries when they narcissistic abusers start using blanket statements.
When they use those around you to try and cause chaos, confusion or make you feel threatened start documenting things. Document things said, times, dates, witnesses and save any proof. Do not let them get you off center or lose your identity. Stay focused and keep your boundaries. Do not listen to them when they are critical or have other being critical of you or are trying to make you feel like you are not adequate. Remember they have hidden motives driving them to do this.
Be cautious because these ones can fake empathy and compassion very well and will use these to get you to drop your guard so they can get their foot in the door. When they get close enough they will destroy you. They will break you down and try to make you dependent on them. This is how they gain their power. They will cause division around you to take your support system away or they will turn friends and colleagues on you so you do not have a support system. Make those they are using aware they are being used in this way. Some are aware they are being used in this way be cautious of those ones they may sure in the guilt or deception or they may be afraid of the consequences of siding with the side of truth. Once way a narcissistic abuser will fake empathy they will do things to remove privileges claiming they are doing it for your benefit or because you do not have the ability to use your own common sense so you need them to do it for you. It is fake compassion and empathy. They use this to get their victims to give up their rights. The more the victims leave the occur the more the abuser will take from them.
Do not let the pharmaceutical industries , corrupt corporations or corrupt government entities nitpicking get to you. They use destructive criticism to tear people down to paint themselves in a more positive light. They also try to use nitpicking against those who become aware of the lies, error or deception to try to destroy their confidence and trust in their own thinking. They will try to get them to doubt themselves. They also use nitpicking to blame shift to make the person who exposed the error , deception or lies. The will try to make the person who exposed them look like the villain and make themselves appear to be a victim. Draw boundaries and also make sure you can prove their nitpicking is not valid. Stick to what you know is true and do not take the nitpicking to heart it is meant to destroy a person and take their identity from them and make them dependent on them.
Another thing that narcissistic abusers do is keep changing the goal for proof and manipulating things so people believe they are the source that should be accepted as setting the goals and standards. When someone has exposed the deception and lies using their own standards or conditions they will change them and even make the goal for the evidence higher while lowering the standard for their own evidence. Document when they do this and also point out that it is a conflict of interest for them to set the goals and standards and that they are manipulating the goals and standards to paint themselves in a positive light. Also point out how they set the standards and goals so that the truth remains hidden and their lies will not get exposed.
They will try to make you feel guilt and try to belittle you to shame you into submission. One example of this is the pharmaceutical industry and the biotech industries pay trolls to laugh at and poke fund of those exposing the truth and they will use the laugh emoji a lot to try and shame or belittle someone to make whip them into submission. If your motives for exposing the truth is not for selfish reasons, or because you want things to be better there is no reason to feel shame. They may use a bad habit, an error you have made in your past. They may use something you have said or done in the past to try to shame you. If you have moved forward and learned from your error or mistake then there is no reason to feel shame. We all make mistakes and errors it is part of learning. Do not let them use them to shame you it will get you to lose center and start doubting yourself.
Another thing that narcissistic abusers do is belittle what their victims have achieved while boasting or speaking about what they have achieved. They will use this as evidence why you cannot trust your own common sense and should count on them. The pharmaceutical industry uses this tactic often in their commercials.
Another tactic they will use is to point out a victims flaws or weaknesses. They do this to get the victims to believe they need to count on them for knowledge and insight and get them to doubt themselves. They try and convince the victims they will fulfill their needs if they trust them. They use this to make the victims feel like they can not be independent and need them to function and that they cannot function without them. If this does not work they will try to convince the victims they are crazy or paranoid. If that does not work they will try to convince those around the victims that those things are true about the victims. We all have flaws and weaknesses , the abusers are better at hiding them. But with time and paying attention they can be seen. Do not let them use your flaws or weaknesses to cause yourself to have doubts. Draw the boundary quickly acknowledge your weakness but also be aware of your strengths and dwell on those we each have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect and it is unreasonable to expect ourselves to be.
I covered the threats they make and the things they do sometimes they are covert and will do and say subtle things, when they get desperate they may resort to more obvious threats. When it comes to the medical , pharmaceutical or government organizations take those threat seriously and start being more aware of things you say and do so they can not use anything against you. Dot your Is and cross your tees do your best to give them no leeway and acknowledge and correct when you do make errors. They try to instill fear and insecurity into the victims to take their power away from them and hinder their thinking abilities. Do your best to remain calm and not respond. Pay very close attention to the things you say and world them wisely.
Many of there tactics such as labeling or name calling can be turned on them by using a label or name that would describe their errors. Often times when someone labels or tags a name on someone that is what people will remember. Draw the line quickly if they do that and let them know it will not be tolerated. The abusers can be labeled with names or tags. But make sure the name and tag is accurate. The names and tags they use are often times not accurate or true but it is effective at getting people to avoid listening to the victim and they will even side with the abusers.
Keep in mind deceptive and manipulative abusers always have to vouch for themselves. You ever see how many times the biotech industry and pharmaceutical industries have to vouch for their integrity and concern for others. To avoid becoming a victim look at their present and past history. Both the pharmaceutical and biotech industry have committed many crimes and had products recalled because of the hundreds of thousands of people they have harmed and they both worked with corrupt government organizations to hide these things. Look at their actions and not their words.
Narcissistic abusers will try to keep you off center by getting you involved in meaningless or chaotic arguments. This is to side tract your thinking and keep you off center so you do not see the truth of matters. You see politicians doing this now days and even using false information to support their reasons for these arguments. This is not only designed to keep the victims from being mentally focused but it side tracks and distracts them so they cannot see the reality of the situation. The pharmaceutical industries and biotech industries have been caught paying trolls to do this online to get people off center or off there game. Do not let them switch the subject of the argument. Do not let them present evidence for an argument that has nothing to do with the subject your may be arguing about. Do not let their insults or belittling behavior effect you. It you have to stop listening draw the boundary of the argument and if they do not stay in those boundaries refuse to engage them. If they do not listen then do not engage them. They are not trying to resolve anything they are only trying to fulfill their agenda.
Pay attention to how they treat others. This says a lot about them. If they have a history of destroying people careers who challenge them , or they have a history of deception and violations of the laws then their actions show who they really are. If you chose to trust them then you have chosen to be their victim. So when their products harm you and you become one of their customers/victims , you would have no one to blame but yourself. Remember actions speak louder then words.
They use destructive conditioning. They paint themselves in a positive light then subtly make you feel inferior and like you do not have the knowledge to decide or wisdom to make decisions for yourselves. You see this type of conditioning in commercials for pharmaceutical products. They even pain their product in a positive light even though their products come with many harmful side effects. By getting people to doubt their own ability to make decisions they can get them to ignore the harm and accept it as being normal. Once this occurs it becomes easier and easier for them to impose their will on the victims.
They also use isolation. They will get the people around the person to avoid them, ostracize them or even help isolate them. They will have people watch them and do things to get the person in trouble or make it appear the person is doing something they are not. Often times they even convince the victims they are doing things they should not do. You are seeing this on a world wide scale on social media. If a person exposes a certain truth, or exposes corruption or lies by the abuser they will be banned from social media platforms or temporarily suspended to punish them. Do you best not to let them isolate you . Let those around you aware they are helping the abuser and they could be next when they decide that something they are doing does not fit their agenda. Those who still help the abuser avoid because they are most likely a part of the agenda or lie.
Another thing narcissistic abuser do is they will paint a person good or strong qualities in a negative light and try to use that as evidence they are arrogant or or believe they are superior. They do this to invalidate your right to have thoughts or emotions. They will accuse you of whining, complaining or being unappreciative. Set boundaries do not let them use your strengths and good qualities in that way it will Rob you of your identity. Their weakness is they will make false assumptions or conclusions and try to present evidence to support those facts. This is usually based on the fact that this is what they would do. I have seen rare instances where victims had become like this as a protective mechanism but it is easy to tell when the person has been a victim and when they are being controlling or manipulative. Controlling people will do some of the other things I have mentioned also.
Abusers try to make people dependent on them. They try to cause doubt in the abused victims. They will try to cause people to doubt the victims sanity or integrity this is also part of isolating them. They will spread lies while pretending like someone else made the false statements. To prevent the abuse hold fast to what you know is true. They will manipulate the order of facts to try and distort and confuse the truth do not let them do that. Check the sources of their information and even inquire of the people. If they cannot tell who gave them the information or who made the statement then they are lying and trying to deceive the victim or those around the victim. If the ones around the victim chooses to believe the lies then it tells you something about them. They should be avoided they may be a part of the deception or lie or they may have their own agenda.
Most of all do your own research. Think about what is in it for the person presenting the information or product. What could their motives be? Do they profit from the knowledge or product? If a person has a lot to lose and still exposes the truth about things don’t you think they should be heard? Why would anyone risk destroying their lives and careers to expose corruption and lies? Why would people spend their own money to expose corruption and lies when there is not profit in it for them. So who should you listen to the narcissistic abusers or the victims of the narcissistic abusers?
How to escape the narcissistic abuser
Victims of narcissistic abuse often times suffer from what is called Stockholm Syndrome. They start seeing their abuser as their protector and develop a sense of security and trust for them. They identify with their abuser and has learned to disown their own perception of reality and have even learned to deny their own emotions. They convince themselves their abusers will keep them safe and secure from harm. Remember the narcissistic abuser creates situations then falsely claim to be able to solve them and make it appear as if they have even though often times someone else resolved it or the situation resolved itself. The pharmaceutical industry does this with many of their drugs and vaccines. They falsely claim their drugs are the solution to someones illness when in actuality many types of illness could be corrected with adjustments to someones diet. Studies have shown those who avoided drugs and adjusted their diets were much more healthy then those who took medications for their health problems. The government does acts that make them appear to be solving problems by giving many public assistance. In the mean time there are many who do not qualify for that public assistance so end up homeless and starving. The biotech industry has caused chronic illness to become rampant. But the narcissistic abusers have conditioned their victims to accept these things as normal and has convinced them they are saviors. For example the biotech industry is actually causing famine to increase yet they falsely claim they are working to prevent famine, while many nations are trying to figure out how to deal with food wastage. Society has been conditioned by narcissistic government entities, the pharmaceutical companies and biotech industries from early childhood to view them as their saviors and to trust them and not rely on their own thinking or reasoning and those who do are the bad guys.
They have conditioned their victims to have cognitive dissonance. The victims have been conditioned to believe any alternative to their situation or any changes would be worse then the abusive relationship they are in. Remember the abusers repeat things many times and will manipulate the truth. Even though studies have shown that learning the cause of disease and taking corrective actions like proper sanitation prevented many forms of disease and wiped it out before the introduction of vaccines the pharmaceutical industry conditioned people that vaccines have brought that about even though many studies show with the introduction of vaccines the diseases started occurring again and vaccines caused them to mutate and become more virulent. The biotech industry has many convinced their products are saving the environment by reducing the amount of toxic chemicals needed to farm when in actuality they are increasing the amount of toxic chemicals needed for farming and are causing chronic illness. Because people have been conditioned at a very young age to trust the narcissistic abusers and have developed a condition called cognitive dissonance. This occurs because the victim has become conditioned to center their identity and perception of reality around what the abuser has told them was true. These things have become part of the victims identity. The cognitive dissonance causes a variety of emotions they will experience anything from anger, confusion , frustration, which can result in the person seeing the ones presenting the truth or reality as the bad person and they may even attack and feel bitter towards that person. They will try to defend their abuser and even blame themselves for what the abuser has done. To change their thinking they have to learn who they are, struggle to learn what the truth actually is while dealing with a big part of their life being false or incorrect. They have to learn who they are as an individual and learn to trust their own decisions. This is why often times victims return to their abusers. A big part of their identity involves the abusers. The pharmaceutical companies have conditioned people to call vaccines and medications “my vaccination” or “my medication” . This indicates how deeply the corporate and government narcissist have conditioned people world wide.
To change their thinking it often times requires them changing their entire way of life. Many do not realize they can heal and we have to remember they have been lied to and told their illness is genetic, or the cause is unknown to hide what is actually causing people to become ill. So they have to learn that certain nutrients and diet changes can help them heal. They have to learn there are options out there. They have to come to realize the reality of things for example things such as almost all infections can be linked to specific nutrient deficiencies. So if we tell someone that vaccines are actually spreading disease we need to also let them know what causes the disease and how they may avoid it.
Also when they do realize the truth they may blame themselves and be overwhelmed with guilt so we must prepare to help them through that.
Another thing that makes it difficult for victims of narcissist abuse victims to escape from their abusers is the tactics the abuser used to manipulate and control the victim. They the abuser has done things to isolate the victim. They have done things to take their support system away by convincing people the victim is crazy, paranoid or lacks the ability to make decisions for themselves. The pharmaceutical companies and medical communities are big on this. Those who suffer from tick born illness ant interstitial cystitis experience the most narcissistic abuse from the medical industry and government organizations. The medical community and government organizations have even went so far with their intimidation that they have taken children out of the families falsely claiming the children were being abused. They do things like this to convince those around them of the lies or deception. Anyone who question things are labeled. It is necessary to document all things including things that have been stated and not let oneself be provoked into saying anything that could be misconstrued and used against them. If we are helping someone escape the medical abuse we have to help them find the alternative methods of healing and make them aware it exist. The medical community, pharmaceutical industry and corrupt government organizations try to make people believe they have no choice when it comes to health. If they do not believe their lies they will do all they can to pressure them into doing their will and doubting their decisions.
When those who have cognitive dissonance attack those trying to help them, do not take it personal. They are afraid or they identify with the abusers so may be to overwhelmed by the new information to realize the truth of matters. We have to be patient and give them dew drops to help them slowly come around. We cannot figuratively punch them in the eye it provokes them to suddenly go on the defense. Asking them questions that cannot be answered like if vaccines are helping people, why has chronic illness become so rampant it is now considered epidemic. Another question that they cannot answer is if the medical community know how to heal people why has cancer become epidemic to the point studies have shown most will deal with cancer at some point in there life. Cancer used to be a rare occurrence and usually happened in elderly, now infants are actually being born with not only cancer but autoimmune diseases that used to be rare. If modern medicine works so well why has disease and chronic illness become worse? Do not provide the answer unless they ask questions they may already be overwhelmed by the new ideas or information.
We also have to show the hidden motives behind the fake empathy, compassion or acts of kindness and show they are doing these things to hide the harm they have done and are still doing. They need to learn how those acts of token compassion or kindness are being used to manipulate and control peoples thinking and divert their attention from the illegal and dishonest things they have done. They use those acts of kindness to get the victim’s support system around them to also view anyone who exposed the corruption and lies as the bad guy. This also makes the abused victim develop a false sense of security and trust for the abuser. We also tend to believe we are not vulnerable to deception or lies with hidden motives because we tend to want to believe people would not deliberately do things like that. Often times even those who are not victims will make excuses because we cannot except these things would be done by the abuser deliberately.
Often times the victim will believe if they tough it out they can get the narcissistic abuser to come around. We have to remember narcissist are about power, control and manipulation. They will ignore , make fun of , discredit any truthful information that is presented to them and they will surround themselves with people who support their agenda or who are a part of the lies and deception. Often times the victim believes if they show the abuser trust and love they will come around. The abuser will use that trust or love to increase the abuse because once they get away with one form of abuse they will slowly introduce another form to gradually get the victim to accept the abuse as being normal. Since society as a whole are victims of the political organizations, pharmaceutical, medical and biotech industries many have been blinded by their deception and lies. They have also put things in place to punish anyone challenging their lies and deception. This is why the pharmaceutical industry, biotech industry and government organizations have paid trolls to silence those exposing the reality of things.
Another thing that makes it hard for a person to escape the narcissistic abuser is lack of knowledge on how to escape what alternatives there are and lack of a support system. All these things are needed because when escaping an abuser it involves dramatic life changes and changes in thinking. These changes can be scary and cause anxiety and fear. This is especially true if the abused victim has children because this also effects their life. The abuse victim has become dependent on the abuser. Changes can cost money, need knew resources and knowledge. It also involves changing thinking on things. This can be overwhelming and can cause the victim to return to the abuser. It may even be difficult for them to imagine a life without the abuser. Sometimes because of the love bombing and token forms of empathy, compassion or kindness the victims will convince themselves the abuser cares about them and make excuses for the bad things they have done. The abused do not want to admit they were wrong so look for redemptive qualities in those who have abused them and they even will blame themselves for the abuse believing they have done something to deserve it. The abusers will feed off this mindset and continually remind their victims of their redemptive qualities. The medical community has been trained to love bomb their victims. When you see pharmaceutical ads they pain the pharmaceutical industry like they make the person lives better because they care. Naccissistic abusers paint there abuse in a positive light and make it appear they are doing things because they know what is better and they care.
It also becomes shameful for the victim because they have to learn to acknowledge the abuse happened and that they are partly responsible for not maintain certain boundaries. Sometimes when we learn knew information it brings shame on the things that occurred out of that ignorance. We all make mistakes and cannot move on if we do not acknowledge them and move forward making the changes necessary to prevent those mistakes form occurring again. The victims need to learn to get over this shame or feelings of remorse in order to move forward.
Written by Lee Stevenson. Sorry I am a lousy editor.
Neglecting any aspect of our lives opens the door for those who are controlling to seize control of any aspect of our lives, whether it is bodily neglect, neglect in life’s responsibilities they will use this as proof you cannot take care of yourself and use it to put themselves in a position of power over you. They will try and use mistakes you have made to make you look like you have been neglectful.
Excessive rebellion can be used to demonstrate you are out of control or cannot be trusted. When you do not agree with something do it in a respectful and appropriate way because whether it is someone close to us or an authority figure if we are overly rebellious it can be used to show why someone has to control our lives.
Giving your word then failing to keep it or failing to fulfill obligation is used by controlling people to show that you cannot be trust to take care of your own life. It is best not to make promises or take on responsibilities unless you are certain you can fulfill them.
Asking for help too often especially when it may not be needed can give controllers a position of power or authority over you because because they can use this to show you cannot resolve problems yourself or you lack the ability to reason things out and trouble shoot problems so need someone to do it for you. Try and solve things yourself and weigh your options when possible before seeking help.
Being afraid to make mistakes and being afraid to admit when you do make mistakes. Being afraid to make mistakes prevents you from trying. This also prevents you from learning. The fact your knowledge does not increase can cause you to make the same errors over and over which can be used to show you need controlled. If you are trying then you will make mistakes. Not admitting when you do make mistakes can be used to show you do not hold yourself accountable.
Controllers will try to get you to over extend yourself. If they think they are losing control of you they will keep trying to get you to take on more and more responsibility so they can overwhelm you and make it look like you are losing control of your life. So be careful about when you say yes to things or when someone is trying to push more responsibilities on you.
We need to be aware of our emotions and acknowledge them and think about how we will respond to them. If we are uncertain we will repress them and not express them. This give controllers the opportunity to use your silence to make it appear you are in agreement with them which makes you comply out of the desire to not cause friction.
Some people are insecure and not aware they want to be controlled. Those who want to be controlled seek out people in positions of authority and power. They become uncomfortable around those who expect them to make their own decisions and think for themselves.
Not having clear lines especially in principles, and values. Our principles and values reflect who we are as a person. This can indicate to a controlling person they can control you by telling you what to believe or how you should be. This also involves being aware of what we feel and how we feel about things. Any doubt can be used by controllers to impose their will on you. So in areas of doubt we need to do thorough research to know where we stand.
Controlling people try to keep you on your guard by frequently accusing you of things whether true or not, they will frequently throw your short comings in your face. By facing our short comings and trying our best to overcome them we take that power away from them. If you point out their short comings they get defensive and angry and will attack you.
Fear and anxiety is used to control people. They will exaggerate dangers to induce fear and anxiety and even lie about the dangers of things. The pharmaceutical industry, governments and biotech industries have used false fears for years to get people to buy their products and do their will. When a person feel fear they lose the ability to reason and think logically because adrenal hormone levels rise which puts a person in a state of fight or flight. This makes them open to suggestions because they feel unsafe and want the security. Then the controllers will offer hope even if it is false hope and people readily accept what they are being told as being true or as their way of being safe or protected. Often times they are being put in an even worse situation.
Controlling people will use repetition to get people to do their will many studies have shown that if something is stated enough times people will start to believe it. They do this to manipulate people around you putting you in a position of being vulnerable to their will.
If you are meeting a controller for the first time they will try to get you to meet them in an area that you do not have resources to seek help and it is usually one familiar to them whether it is their office, car, private location. They prefer not to meet in a public place because they cannot control all those around them so cannot control the situation to put themselves in a position of power of someone.
Controllers will let you speak while pretending to be interested in you. They do this to try and find your likes and dislikes and find your weakness to manipulate you into a position of being vulnerable to their control. If you try to get them to talk about themselves they will change the subject and try to get you to talk more about yourself, or they will evade questions about themselves. Sometimes they will not answer the question you ask but will answer one not even ask.
Controlling people will turn the tables when they are wrong and try and make it appear that they are the victim and not you. They distort the facts so they can gain the support of those around you.
Controlling people will overwhelm others with data, facts and statistics to convince others of their points knowing this will overwhelm peoples mind and cause them doubt so they believe the controller instead of the victim being controlled. They do this so they can push their agenda.
Controllers will try to add unexpected negative information information to add to your mental burden or stress . Or they will try to increase your responsibilities to overwhelm your mind which will make decision making harder. They can use the inability to make decisions from being overwhelmed to convince others your life needs controlled.
Controlling people try to make you decide things very quickly without giving you time to reflect on it or to learn more. They will apply pressure and make things tense in order to inhibit your ability to reason so they can direct you to the decision they want you to make. An example of this is car sales man. They will pretend like a vehicle is on sale but if you do not buy the vehicle now then the sale will end and you will pay much more later.
Controlling people will poke fun of your weaknesses or short comings while playing down their own. They will try to make you look bad in others eyes. But if their short coming is pointed out they will try to make it look like you are just attacking them or just being critical.
Controllers try to convince people they are vulnerable and need their protection and then they will convince them that they can protect them.
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